Two little kids are playing together in a sandbox in the park with their pails and shovels. Suddenly a huge fight breaks out, and one them runs away, screaming, “I hate you! I hate you!” In no time at all they’re back in the sandbox, playing together as if nothing has happened.
Two adults observe the interaction from a nearby bench. “Did you see that?‘” one comments in admiration. “How do children do that? They were enemies five minutes ago.”
“It’s simple,” the other replies. “They choose happiness over righteousness.” ~Harriet Lerner
It’s so easy to do, isn’t it? Sometimes are self-love causes us to choose happiness outside of relationships that need some work-it-out-muscle-power. Other times, it causes us stay in relationships where righteousness is absent.
Either way, many of us need to get back in the sandbox with our shovels and buckets, and dig away until we can sift through what’s wrong and embrace the honest truth about one another. Maybe you just need to say you’re sorry, or “I forgive you,” or “I love you and my sandbox just isn’t the same without you in it.” Whatever it is, say it. Time is wasting. Whatever the ‘issue’ is, it isn’t more important than the other person. Set aside your happiness and embrace the righteous way. Stop waiting for the other person to go first. Just do it.
Are you more inclined to stay and pretend or run away and self-protect?
“But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.” ~James 3:17